Everything exists with duality. The opposite two sides may appear in a hostile relationship, but they are just being as they are. It is up to us on how to utilize it.
Before we were born to the planet Earth, we all are spirits, and there are no clear distinction between female/male, old/young, rich/poor, or human race. We all agreed to have certain conditions such as sex and race when we are born to the planet Earth, so that we can play a certain role. With acting such certain roles, we can experience emotions and feelings under certain limited situations. We came here the planet Earth to experience lots of stuff.
An event itself is neutral. It happens with certain purposes, and it is up to us to consider the event as a curse or as a blessing. We all are equally provided Free Will anytime at any situation on how to react to the event.
For example, I was diagnosed as severe diabetic two years ago. If I take this as a cures, I would blame my environment living in America. When I was living in Japan, I never could finish 1 can of pop, because it is too sugary for me. After I started living in America, every time I was invited to a cookout dinner, they offered me several pops. I naturally started drinking pop for my substitute of drinking water. I ended up drinking at least three pops a day. As a result of such bad habit, I became a severe diabetic. Plus, I gained more than 10 pounds. Then, I realized that I always had an option to choose water rather than pop, or to choose healthy foods rather than junk and easy foods.
When I decided to take this as a blessing, I stopped blaming, and I started feeling lighter and happier. I started switching my eating and drinking habit into healthier choices. I have started enough exercise every day. With showing my effort to regain my good health, I can contribute to my family for their good health.
When we make a wrong choice, take it as a blessing because we can learn from the mistake. We can make a smarter choice on next time, and we can share our knowledge with our friends and family.
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