This year was a tough year for my husband. He went through lots of challenges. Although the tough events happened to him, my daughter and I also suffered from the toughness as his family.
I had been so frustrated with my husband in observing him. I wanted to change him so badly. I kept on thinking to myself that I would have done better if I were him. However, deep inside of me, I knew I am not allowed to force him to change his ways.
In such days, my family souls kept on sending me one vision. The vision was a story of The North Wind and the Sun. In this story, the North Wind and the Sun had a test to decide which is the stronger of the two. The test was to make a passing traveler remove his coat. Although The North Wind brew so hard, the traveler didn’t remove the coat. Instead, the traveler started clinging on to the coat even harder. On the other hand, when the Sun shone, the traveler soon took his coat off by himself.
The lesson of this story is “Kindness effects more than severity.”
Nobody has the rights to force to change others. Because everybody has their own divine timing to change themselves or learn something on their own. All the challenges happen to them for reasons. Nobody has the rights to take the opportunities away from the person to learn something precious.
We can change only ourselves. If we really want to change somebody, the only way that we can do is to show the person ourselves shining with happiness and confidence. Just like The Sun did in the story. We can keep on shining to the person, then the person eventually might decide to change.
After I have fully understood the moral lesson from The North Wind and the Sun, all the tough challenges and situations for my husband finally have started calming down.
By the way, I found a great Youtube video of this story.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TrFUYAJXWLU published by Speakaboos. Very cute video and well done. Especially, you will love the kids’ voices.
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