Do you share your gifts with others on a daily basis? Do you honor yourself by sharing your gifs with others?
The fourth step to contribute to the world peace is to share your gifts with others.
I believe we all prefer to give rather than receive, in deep inside, in a spiritual level. Or, I should say we feel more happiness in giving rather than in receiving.
When we are in a love relationship, our brain feels happiness when we receive something material from our love partner. When we receive a birthday gift or an anniversary gift from our spouse or partner, we feel happiness in the brain. However, when we pray or support our spouse or children from our heart without expecting anything material in return from them, we feel even happier than receiving any materials, because you feel happiness in the heart. Yes, the difference lays in feeling in the brain or in the heart. In other word, conditional or unconditional.
This can be explained with using a Japanese term. In Japan, we have a term 恋愛. This term describes the process on how we grow the stage of love. There are two stages in experiencing love.
First, we start experiencing from the first stage love, 恋 (Koi). The first stage love (Koi) is the conditional love. We fall in love with somebody who has something that we think it is missing in us. For example, in our younger days, we tend to fall in love with somebody who has our favorite typed appearance such as good looking face or slim body. In other cases, we tend to crash on somebody who is abundant with materials, aka a person from a rich family. In such cases, our brain chooses what is missing in us. Our brain tries to compensate the missing part with something external. Therefore, the first stage love comes from our brain.
Then, later on, we gradually move to the second stage love, 愛 (Ai). The second stage love (Ai) is the unconditional love. In this stage, we love somebody without thinking. We love the person just because. We love the person, not for their physical appearance or how rich they are, but for their personality and their unique characteristics. I personally believe the marriage is the best way to experience and learn the second stage love (Ai). When we live long with our spouse, we encounter different opinions or disappointment with our spouse for some reasons. However, in the process of living together, helping and supporting one another, we can grow our love stage to the unconditional love. In the long run, we start loving our spouse for their true personality.
Another great opportunity in experiencing the conditional love is in the process of raising our children. We love our children without any conditions. We don’t expect them to give us in return. We constantly pray for their good health and happiness, no matter what. That is the unconditional love. Some people discipline their unconditional love in raising their pet animals, while others in their life dream job.
Once we experience the unconditional love, we fully understand that we originally feel more happiness in giving rather than in receiving.
Same thing can be said for sharing your gifts. When we share our gifts with others without expecting anything in return, or when we do something for the person from our heart, our souls shine. And when our souls shine, the great happiness experiences will be imprinted into our souls. Making somebody happy or supporting somebody is actually what we truly desire.
So, let’s grow our love stage from the conditional love to the unconditional love, and enjoy shining our souls with much more happiness. Let’s enjoy sharing our gifts with others. That will enable us to live our life meaningfully.
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