I have met many married couples, including old and young, who still follow the old days’ fixed concepts. The husband being bossy and the wife being obedient.
I think it is okay as long as the both parties agree with taking the role of the old days. However, I have heard many wives complaining about their husbands.
I don’t remember who and when told me but I do remember somebody gave me a great advice of a newlywed. The advice was like that.
When we get married, it is our responsibility to create a comfortable routine for both of husband and wife. In order to make it possible, we have to go through the process of disagreements and arguments. This process is not fun, but it worth to go through for the future several decades to spend time together. How can we do? Only one effort. Communicate, communicate, and communicate… That is all we have to do until we have the peaceful understanding (and compromising).
When I started living with my husband, I was disappointed. It was far from the romantic love life of a newlywed couple. He would come back all mad from the work, sat down at the kitchen table, ate the food that I cooked with all complaining about his workplace and people who worked with. He never appreciated for my cooking food and cleaning the house. No smile. Right after he finished eating, he quickly left the kitchen without any help in doing dishes or putting thing away from the table. Right after waking up, he would turn on the television news which talked about all the tragic news. Right after coming back from work, he would turn on the television, again the news channel. I didn’t like any of them.
I didn’t give up on communicating with him. He at first was reluctant listening to me. However, the great thing about him was that he was young and flexible. Soon enough, he started listening to me intensively, and started making effort on changing his habit. Now my husband is very supportive with our daily chores and raising our daughter together. We communicate well.
He did the same thing to me. I had many bad habits that I annoyed him without noticing by myself. I made efforts to change my bad habit.
Marriage life is supposed to be a long one, longer than the years that you spend with your parents. It definitely is worthy to take time to communicate with your spouse in the first year of the marriage. It will be beneficial for both parties to create a comfortable routine to live together comfortably for many years.
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