My parents are good at socializing. They are gifted at people skills.
When I thought about my younger aged days, I was good at socializing. I remember I was brave enough to speak up in front of many people. I was good at making people laugh. I often raised my hand during the class and said something funny or mimicked the teacher’s voice tone or habit. The other classmates laughed out loud. I felt comfortable to make them laugh. In those says, I seriously thought about becoming a professional comedian when I grow up. I spent my elementary school days like that. I always had good friends around me and I never felt lonely.
However, the situation was completely changed at the junior high school. Our school district was divided by the area where we lived. All of my good friends lived in the different area from the area I lived, so they went to the different junior high school from me. I never had any trouble to make new friends at the elementary school, but for some reasons, I experienced difficulties to make good friends at the junior high school.
Along with that, when I was a second year at the junior high school, my former friends at the swimming club suddenly decided to pick on me. I had a very tough one year for being ignored or bullied. Gradually, I started trying myself being hidden. That is how I started even hating human beings somewhat.
In such days, I asked my parents the technique on socializing because I knew they had a great people skill.
My dad told me “to take a deep breath before you say something to others.” He explained that “When saying something from anger, the words can be very harsh. But after taking a deep breath, the words only hit the point but omit the harsh parts.”
My mom told me “to forgive and forget.” She said she was very good at forgetting. She told me that “we humans sometimes do or say something horrible to others. It might not come from their true nature, but the environment or some other things might force them to do such a horrible thing.”
My mom knew I had a good memory. Once somebody did something mean to me, I would not forget about it. My mom told me that having a good memory is not always good for me. She said sometimes I should act being stupid by forgetting. Nobody is perfect. Even I might say or do something horrible to others without knowing by myself.
I guess people skill can be acquired by our efforts in a daily life.
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