I watched the television show about Manzai-shi (Japanese comedian unit, usually consists of two performers). I was impressed at what one elder comedian commented at the ending of the show. His comment was like this.
As a Manzai-unit, the performers want to do their jobs at equal percentage as in 50%/50%. In the reality, however, there is no such well-balanced units. In the most popular Manzai units, one performer seemingly works more than the other at the balance of 80%/ 20%, 90%/10%, or even 100%/0%.
This rate is what others see. One performer always sweats and does his best, by writing the scripts, socializing with television staff members, and motivating the other performer to practice. On the other hand, the other performer seems to be relaxed all the time, without any sweats, by going with the flow. The old comedian mentioned that such seemingly unbalanced units are actually in a good balance.
I thought this theory is interesting. It can be applied to married couples or work partners. The point is that the other performer plays an important role in the units to take a good balance. Because of the relaxed state, the person might be able to see things from different angles and find new findings.
Recently I have been confused about my true wish and others’ wish. I tend to wish about my spouse on how I want him to be successful. I know it is none of my business. I am still in the process to fully master on “leaving him alone”.
The old comedian’s comment made me realize that we cannot do anything to change others as we wish. We can do so only to ourselves. We can pray and wish for our own, but we cannot do so for others, even for our significant others. If we can change others as we like, the unit might not be interesting anymore…
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