I had a conversation with one of my acquaintances on this land. It was interesting to hear about her younger days experiences.
Her husband was an active duty military. Their marriage life for more than 20 years went by quickly with lots of moving. They needed to move to other state almost every three years. They have two children and two dogs. Their frequent moving must has been tough for them especially when their children were still small.
After she lived in many different cities in different states, her husband retired from the military. Then they moved here in this area and started their own business. They have lived here for about ten years now.
What she mentioned astonished me. Among all the other areas she has lived, this area is her most favorite city to live. I know I should not say this often, but this area is not my favorite place to live. My body does not fit in the dry air with less rain. There is no water body such as ocean, river, or lake. The local people are not very nice. This is my personal impression and experience after living here for nine years.
On the other hand, she loves the dry air. She loves and appreciates sunny days. She grew up in the place where they had a huge amount of snow during winter time, so that now she hates snowy days. Here in this area, we seldom have snow. Even if we have some snow, it does not stay for long. It melts quickly.
And, she says the local people on this area are much nicer than other areas where she had lived. According to her personal experiences and opinions, in other big cities and other states, there are more obvious racial discrimination. According to her, the local people on this land are more open-minded and friendly than other cities. I totally disagree with her. But she might be right. I never lived in other area. I don’t have any other comparison factor living in other place in America.
Last but not least, she emphasizes its safety. She says this area is the only place where she feels safe. She does not feel the necessity to lock the car door or the house entrance door. She forgot to close the garage door for one night, but everything was intact. Eventually she stops locking the car door and the house door. In 60 years of her life, she says this is the only area that you can enjoy the total safety in America, as far as she knows.
Her last statement was an eye opener for me. I never thought of that, but I agree that this area is safe. I grew up in a safe area in Japan so that I took safety for granted. I just wrote in my yesterday’s article that we should not take anything for granted. In that sense, I appreciate her to make me realize the positive aspect of this area.
It made me realize the importance of recognizing more positive aspects about this land, instead of complaining about it. From now on, I should proactively try to find the positive aspects of this land, so that I can move this land with lots of appreciation.
I should love this area as much as I can, then, this area will love me back. And then, it will let me go.
Interesting, right?
This logic can be applied to human relationship as well. Love somebody as much as you can, then, the person will love you back. With the person’s unconditional love, you might feel released from any unnecessary love and hate tangling. You might feel free.
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