I have a life-long male friend. I have known him for many years since we were both small. In our childhood days, we both often thought we would get married in the future. We got along with very well. We thought it natural to get married.
In reality, it didn’t happen. My friend married in his late years through an arranged marriage. It seemed to me that he chose his wife as a result of high pressure from others. There were still many people who act and behave under old traditional way of thinking. One of such old thinking was that we need to get married before the certain age. His wife seemed to be under the same situation. So, the arranged marriage worked well for both of them, when it comes to the contracted marriage.
For the first several years of their marriage, my friend often complained about his wife. He often mentioned that they had discussed about a divorce. They didn’t get divorced though. They are still together. My friend does not seem to be happy at all. He seems to survive his marriage life just for his children.
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This morning, while I was driving a car for a long distance, I thought about them. Technically speaking, I didn’t intentionally think about them, but some thoughts about them came to me regardless of my intention. As you know, while you are driving, or whatever you are doing something without using your logical brain, you go into a meditation state. So, I was driving, and at the same time, I was meditating about them without thinking.
My conscious was expanded. My logical thinking was not functioning at all. Under the expanded conscious, I was told, or I knew, that every marriage serves its own purposes to fit for the husband and the wife. Outsiders will never understand the true purpose for their marriage. In my friend’s case, the husband and the wife have agreed in their soul levels to teach each other.
My friend and his wife have a totally opposite personality. My friend cannot be selfish. He always concerns about others and puts others before himself. On the other hand, his wife is self-centered. She always puts herself at first. She never thinks about others. That way, they are taking a good balance and teaching one another from the opposite direction.
From other people’s point of views, the wife’s being selfish does not help anybody else. But in their marriage, it does.
So, perhaps in every marriage, a husband and a wife help and teach each other. It sometimes may appear one is better and superior than the other, but in fact, they both need one another to take a good balance.
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