I want to share one of my friends’ story.
I met her right after I married to my husband. She also married to an American man around the same time as we did. Since we shared the common experiences such as the international marriage and the US immigrant visa procedure, we instantly became friends. Even after we moved to our destination in America, we both were blessed to get pregnant almost at the same timing. My daughter and her son were born, only 4 months apart.
Unfortunately, the first four years of her marriage had been tough for her.
She had suffered from the domestic violence from her husband. A couple of times, she had been sent to ER from his physical violence. She had been depressed from being verbally abused by her husband. Her husband had been arrested being accused for domestic violence.
One time, while her husband was physically attacking her, she defended herself by kicking him. He called the police and accused her as a batterer of violence. She was arrested by the police and stayed in the jail for one night.
During that time, my family visited her and her family. She looked sad and depressed.
I felt sorry for her. I wanted to help her out from the situation. I recommended her several times to divorce with her husband for her safety. However, no matter how hard the situations became, she never separated from him.
Perhaps, she didn’t like my suggesting her a divorce. We gradually stopped communicating. We remain friends in Facebook. Once in a great while, we greet each other by sending a quick Hi message through Facebook messenger.
Today, when I saw my Facebook page, I saw her newest post. She posted her happy family picture along with their newborn. She just had their third baby.
I was touched. She proved one important universal rule; our strong will makes our reality into a preferable one. It is definitely her strong desire and will to make this happen. Congratulations, my friend. I wish I heard the great news from her directly. But, I guess it was supposed to be like this. It is all right.
Human relationships are like the ocean waves. They come and go. Some stay for lifelong while others leave after a certain term. All is well as they are.
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