I received an email from the exercise class instructor. For the past three years, I had attended at her class regularly, but I stopped attending it anymore for a certain reason.
To be honest, I was offended by her email. Her true intention was clear. She is a nice person. She didn’t send me this email in order to offend me. I know that. But still, I didn’t like what she wrote.
I had gone to some events and fun activities with her. I considered her as my friend. So, as a friend, I talked about my private in information with ease. Since they were my private information, I naturally thought she would keep them only to herself. But it turned out she didn’t do so. She shared my personal information with everybody in her class.
How did I know about that? The answer was simple. When I went to her class, some people asked me about the update of my private issue. I didn’t like what she did. And it was the main reason why I stopped attending her class anymore.
What she did was gossiping about me. I never permitted her to share my private information to anybody else. I didn’t tell her not to tell anybody, but I thought it as minimal courtesy. I naturally trusted her to have the same moral as I do.
Today’s her email clearly showed that she gossiped about me again to everybody in her class.
I was filled with anger toward her. I almost picked up my cell phone and called her to complain about it.
But, I didn’t do so.
Instead, I took several deep breathes. Then I meditated about it. I wanted to see this event from a different perspective.
After a couple of minutes’ meditation, I was back to my peace. What I got from my meditation was like this.
First, I got to know about her. She didn’t do this with any evil intention. She does not think sharing my personal information to everybody is gossiping. Then, when I went deeper in her soul level, I saw her true nature. She is very interested in humans. She wants to know about every individual. She considers all her students as her extended family. That is why she thinks it okay to share everybody’s personal information, just like what we do to our family members. And, she never thinks that I was offended by her actions.
Secondly, I got to know about myself. I don’t like to share my personal information to everybody.
Finally I got to know the important tip. Now that I know her personality and her action tendency, I can do better from next time. I should not tell her any of my personal information.
Everything is a learning opportunity. Instead of getting caught up emotionally to a certain event, I can calm myself and ask my inner peace what I can learn from the event.
It is always a good idea to get back to your inner peace. From the vintage point, you can see some new findings through a certain event. For me, now my anger to the instructor completely melted down. Instead, I appreciate her to have guided me to a new finding through her email.
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