Today is my dad’s birthday. I sent a birthday wish message through my mom’s cell phone.
In her reply, my mom mentioned about little bit of their recent life.
Since my dad retired from working, he stays home all day. He lost his eye visions on both eyes. He is now considered as blind. He cannot go for a wall alone. He cannot read newspapers nor check the Internet pages.
My mom still goes to work in the morning on weekdays. She cooks every meal; breakfast, lunch, and dinner for my dad. She cleans the house and goes to grocery shopping. She seems to have no time for herself. She wants to go to a get together with her friends like having a tea or lunch, but she cannot go.
I suggested my parents to hire a house maid whom they can trust to come to their house to clean and cook. Just one or two days in a week will be helpful. Even for two hours or so will do.
My dad refused this idea, though. He feels ashamed of his current situation and does not want anybody to come to their house. He wants my mom to do everything for him.
I feel sorry that I cannot do anything for them. That being said, if I lived closed to them, I would spent most of my time for them. I appreciate this situation, living far away from them, so that I can spend my time for my family, especially taking care of my young daughter.
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Back in my elementary school days, my mom was so kind and nice to everybody so that she could not refuse any favors from her relatives. In my elementary school days, I don’t remember my mom staying at home, even though she was a homemaker. She constantly went somewhere, talking care of her relatives.
My dad’s side of relatives lived in another prefecture. When my dad’s mom (my paternal grandma) was very sick being hospitalized for more than one year, my mom would go there taking care of her. She would stay several days in the hospital and didn’t come back home.
After my paternal grandma passed away, my maternal grandpa got sick and hospitalized. My mom did the same. She stayed several nights in the hospital, taking care of her dad.
Along with that, my mom was taking care of my classmate who lived with her grandparents. I didn’t like my mom always spending her time for somebody else, not for her own children.
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I started worrying about my parents. I wanted to be help for them. I didn’t know what they want me to do. So, I called my parents to ask them directly.
I talked to both of my dad and mom. Both of them sounded healthy and happy to hear my voice.
When it came to my mom’s turn to talk to me, she told me not to worry about them.
After the conversation, I felt relieved. My mom told me something like this.
They have spent more than 50 years as a married couple. Even though my mom complains about my dad, she is happy about taking care of my dad. There should be very strong spiritual connection between them. There should be strong love between them. They are fine by themselves. I should not worry about them. They want me to stay being happy and to take good care of my family; my husband and daughter.
Besides, both of my parents have been trustworthy and kind to relatives and others. They have accumulated good deeds to others. Whenever they need help, their family spirits and angels are always there for them to send necessary support to them.
All I can do for them is to keep sending good thoughts about them. Everything should go well for them.
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