One of my good friends shared her recent experience.
Her mother passed away. She was 91 years old. My friend’s dad had passed away 30 years ago. Since then, her mother had lived by herself. Her last sickness in her kidney put her in the hospital. She had been bedridden in the hospital since the beginning of this year. The pain was unbearable, and the mom started telling her daughter (my friend) that she wanted to leave from her body as soon as possible.
So, my friend knew her mom’s last day would come soon. Upon her mom’s death, she could somewhat cerebrate her departure. She had been okay after the funeral.
After the funeral and some paperwork procedure, my friend got a cold. She couldn’t get rid of the cold for two months or so. It made her body weak and sick. She had suffered from extreme pain in her throat and bones.
She said everything finally started calming down.
She probably had accumulated lots of emotions without knowing by herself. Her hidden emotions needed to come out in some ways. She needed to rest well her physical body along with mind and spirit.
Seeing somebody off to the spirit world is a tough task. Especially in the case when the departed person is your parents.
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While I was listening to my friend’s experience, I was thinking about my dad.
My dad used to tell me in my younger days, that the most important filial piety for a child is to live longer than the parents. He started saying this to me even when I was an elementary school kid. When I was young, I would laugh and told him not to worry. I naturally thought I would live longer than my dad.
Thinking back to those days, I understand better than before, on why my dad said that to me.
My dad was born before the World War II. Everybody at that time was poor, surviving day by day. My dad went through before, during, and after the war. He has so many tough challenges in his life. His dad passed away when my dad was very small. My mom went through the same way. My mom’s mom died when she was two or three years old. In my parents’ generations, they could not take it for granted to live healthy and long life.
I want to live longer than my parents as they wish. I know it is going to be a very tough task to see them off to the spirit world, but I will eventually do the task.
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