Our trip to Japan is coming closer and closer. My daughter and I are so excited about it.
My daughter often talks about our last trip to Japan. It was October in 2017.
My last trip to Japan was very emotional for me, because I had not seen my parents for the previous seven years. On their visit in America in 2011, my mom and I had a very bad fight. Since then we stopped contacting each other for several years.
I still remember about my last trip. It started with tears and ended with tears. Very emotional trip.
I started crying in the car where my husband gave us a ride to the airport. I sobbed at San Francisco airport while transferring airplane. Even in the airplane heading to Japan, I could not stop crying most of the hours of the 12 hours flight. I sobbed at the airport in Japan right after we arrived. I sobbed in the shuttle bus. I sobbed in the hotel. I even sobbed in the aquarium during the fun dolphin show.
One day while I was chatting my mom at their house, my mom spitted out some mean words to me. It was completely normal to her. It was her habit. Instantly I reacted to her words. I got furious at her. I yelled at her and cried at the same time.
My daughter was the only one who stayed calm. She whispered to me in my ear and told me to calm down. She also mentioned my mom didn’t mean it. It was her old bad habit. I should just let it go. Without my daughter’s support, my mom and I would have ended up with a bad fighting again, which might have separated us forever.
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Recently while my daughter and I were taking a long hot bath, she asked me a small favor.
Her small favor for me was not to fight with my mom during our upcoming trip in Japan.
I told my daughter it would be up to my mom. In case my mom spits out mean wording again, I might react.
My mom said something mean even about my daughter while our last trip. I asked my daughter if she understood what my mom said in Japanese. My daughter nodded. She understood everything what my mom said about her and me. According to my daughter, those words were nothing to her. She just let go of it. And I should do the same.
This is what my daughter told me.
As of now, sadly, my mom has not changed her bad habit. She most likely will spit out some mean wording to me and my daughter during our upcoming visit. This will be a great opportunity for me to grow up spiritually. My mom won’t change but I can, with my will. I can change my reaction to her mean words. Considering the fact my mom loves me, her mean wording is not her true feeling. It is just her bad habit. By knowing the fact all the time, I can change myself. I can react to my mom with my unconditional love to my mom no matter what. Then, the relationship between my mom and I will shift upward.
I am thankful for my daughter to share her wisdom. I am learning a lot from my daughter. She is an old matured soul.
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