I want to share one of my recent uncomfortable experiences. It was uncomfortable, but I gained some lessons through this experience. If you are curious in the lessons, please bear with me in reading this story.
It is about a neighbor mom. The mom accompanies to her children to the school bus stop every morning and evening. She and I exchanged our phone numbers. We would chat on the way back home from the bus stop.
One day we ended up chatting in the middle of the street. You wouldn’t believe the length of our chatting. We stood there and chatted for two hours.
During the two hours of our chatting, she was the main person who kept on talking. Everything I heard from her was complains. She complained about everybody she knows. She complained about the school teachers, faculties, and her children’s classmates. She even complained about her friends and relatives.
Nothing was beneficial for me to hear.
I was exhausted and drained when I was back home.
It was as if she dumped her emotional garbage to me. She sucked up the good energy from me.
Some of you might have experienced the similar situation. Maybe you know exactly how I felt.
I blamed myself for my not being able to end the chatting and go back home earlier. I could have said some excuses to end her chatting, instead of wasting my time for two hours.
Right after I arrived at home, I received a text message from her. She said, she had fun chatting with me and she wants to have a get together with me.
I know my answer clearly. I don’t want to get any closer to this person. I didn’t want to hurt her feeling, though. So, I simply replied back to her, “maybe, one of these days.”
This was one month ago.
Since then, I tried to keep a “sacred distance” from her, gradually and naturally. She still sent me a text message several times, but I always replied back to her in a simpler sentence, so that it wouldn’t bring to a long conversation.
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Fast-forwarding to last Thursday.
The school sent out an emergency message to parents via phone. The message included two cancellations of the club activity in the afternoon of that day and the school of the following day, due to the upcoming winter storm.
I didn’t receive the call, due to the school’s system error. I got a relayed message from my husband, instead. I thought of the neighbor mom. Since the message was critical, I relayed the message to her by text message. I wanted to make sure she got this message, simply from my kindness.
I didn’t receive any reply from her. I didn’t feel comfortable for her not replying back to me, but I decided to take it positive way. She might have been busy at that time, and forgot to reply back to me later.
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To be honest, this morning I was reluctant to see her at the bus stop, but I decided to act normal.
When I saw her in the street, I smiled at her and greeted her. She didn’t do the same as I did. She seemed to be mad for something and ignored me. She said something in a strong voice tone to her children and passed by me.
I felt so uncomfortable. I was surrounded by negative feelings.
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I took a nice long breathing a couple of times and talked to my family spirits in my mind. Then, I got some messages from my family spirits as a block of thoughts. It was like this.
It was a great experience to remind me the important tip to live. Stay positive and stay in a high vibration no matter what. Don’t get affected by others and the environment.
Interestingly, it connects from the message I got yesterday in my backyard. I just received a message from weeds’ thick roots to root securely and firmly.
It followed by an “aha-moment.”
Didn’t I go through the similar uncomfortable situations while I was working for the organization in Japan? It was a real torture, wasn’t it? I needed to deal with the emotional roller-coaster coworkers for eight hours every day. I used to take it to personal. I used to get hurt by them.
Rest assured. They were all in the past. Look at how lucky I am now. She is not my coworker. I don’t need to deal with her in the same workplace every day.
Then, another “aha-moment” came into my mind.
At the recent parent conference, my daughter’s teacher praised my daughter’s stable emotion. My daughter stays happy and calm all the time. She doesn’t get affected by others or the environment. The teacher said it was thanks to us, parents, who stay emotionally stable and happy all the time. The teacher told us “You guys are doing very well on raising your daughter that way.”
According to the teacher, many students have an emotional roller-coaster issue. She believes it is due to their parents. Most likely their parents have terrible mood-swing issues. Children easily absorb their parents’ mood-swing habit.
Maybe, today’s incident happened to me to remind me the important tip. My staying happy and calm all the time is one of the greatest gifts that I can give it to my daughter.
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