Yesterday I wrote about my adolescence days without my mom’ support. I thought about that and realized it was not my mom’s fault.
The first reason is, as I mentioned yesterday, the society at that time was like that. Adults were not willing to talk about the physical change openly with their children.
The second reason is that my mom grew up without her mom. My mom’s mom passed away when my mom was still a baby.
In my younger days, I always blamed my mom for her not supported me in my adolescence days.
Now that I am much older than those days, I know the reason why my mom did not support me. It was not that she did not support me on purpose, but that she could not. Because she grew up without her mom’s support. My mom didn’t have the proper relationship of a mom and daughter.
If I could go back to my younger days in spirit, I would tell “younger-days-me” not to always blame my mom. Be nice to my mom because she grew up without her mom. She doesn’t know what to do… I could have made our relationship a better one by not giving up in communicating with my mom. I gave up in communicating with my mom and kept everything to myself.
That being said, I cannot change my past. All I can do is learn from my younger days’ mistake.
Luckily my daughter provides me the opportunity to act wisely and differently this time. I am willing to openly talk with my daughter and learn from her wise spirit.
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