At night I called my dad. He was happy to hear my voice. He said he feels lonely especially at night staying alone in the house where my late mom was always with him. I understand how lonely he is. I feel sorry that I cannot visit him sooner.
I wanted to have a conversation with my dad for just fun. I wanted to end our conversation with happy feeling.
However, my dad started complaining about my late mom. He still believes my mom passed away because she refused the chemotherapy treatment. We had this conversation many times while my mom was alive. I told my dad that since it was my mom’s life, she had the right to decide on the medical treatment for her body. After my mom had the chemotherapy treatment twice, she decided not to have it anymore. She wanted to value her QOL (quality of life) for her remainder life. That was why she chose to stay home peacefully and depart to the spirit world on her own bed in her house, instead of talking the chemotherapy and die on the hospital bed. I respect my mom’s decision and I am happy for my mom to be able to depart on the bed in her house without having agonies. I started feeling irritated to my dad for his not being able to be happy for my mom. He is still stack at the same place where he keeps blaming my mom to depart before him.
I didn’t want to argue with my dad, so I tried to finish the conversation with him. My dad didn’t allow me hang up the phone. He started talking about the inheritance from my late mom.
Then again, I started feeling irritated by what my dad said. He changes his mind every time when I talk to him. At our first conversation, he said he wants to inherit all of my mom’s inheritance without sharing it with my brother and me. At our second conversation however, my dad didn’t remember what he said on our previous conversation. He said he would share it with three of us. Then at our third conversation of today, he went back to the original state. He insisted he should receive all of inheritance from my mom. Whatever I explained him about the inheritance law that all the lawful heirs need to agree on Agreement on Division of Inheritance, he didn’t listen to me. He doesn’t believe me that he cannot decide everything secretively by law.
While I was talking with him, I thought I should end this conversation. He would not listen to me anyway. I hope his accountant will explain him so that we will go through this paper procedure without any issues. I am not feeling comfortable talking with my dad. I should take time on this process. And my family should get a professional person’s support for this instead of dealing with this all by ourselves.
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