Last night at 9 p.m., I talked to the inheritance accountant. I told him I don’t feel comfortable to sign the agreement document. We made another meeting to discuss about the other options tonight at the same time.
Two hours before our second meeting, my phone rang. It was from my dad.
I hesitated to answer the phone. It will make the situation worse if the interested parties who are dealing with disagreement speak directly. I could have ignored the phone call from my dad. But I could not ignore. He is my dad anyway. Before I picked up the phone, I said a quick prayer to my family spirits.
I answered the phone. My dad was already irritated from the beginning. He yelled at me about my turned down to sign the document. I told him my reasons why I don’t feel comfortable to sign the agreement.
Then, he lost his temper. He started saying this and that. What he hurt me the most was about my mom.
He said my mom was so mad at me after I went back to America this January. I doubted my ears about what I just heard from my dad. I asked him back was it this trip. He said he was sure it was this trip, right before she passed away.
I could not hold my tears. I thought I spent a great time with my late mom in this January. I never did anything bad to make my mom mad at me. But my dad could be right, because my mom yelled at me even while I was just helping her in January. Once in a while, she lost her temper to me. Maybe because of the side effect of her strong pain killer medicine.
My dad added nasty words to me from his anger. He yelled at me to return all the money that my mom had given me long time ago. Some of them were the birthday gift to me and my daughter. My mom would not say such stingy things to me. Since my dad was furious about my refused to sign, he said all kinds of nasty things to me.
I needed to tell him politely that I don’t want to keep hearing his complains anymore. Then I hang up the phone.
I talked to my husband about what just happened. First, he told me to contact the inheritance accountant to reschedule tonight’s meeting. I was already devastated that I would not be able to talk. Then, he told me not to take it seriously about whatever my dad yelled at me on tonight’s phone call. He might lost his mind from his anger. My husband didn’t believe what my dad said about my mom. My husband assured that my mom appreciated my visit in January. She loved me while she was alive, and still loves me in spirit. My husband’s kind words really soothed me.
I just wished I could talk to my mom directly. I miss her so much.
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Before I fell asleep, I meditated. In my inner peace, I understood clearly. My dad lost his memory and talked about the big argument between my mom and me at Las Vegas in 2010. Due to the old age, his memory mixed up. He probably thought it just happened in this year, but in reality, it happened in 2010. My mom and I had a good time in January. In my meditated status, I felt love from my family spirits, including my mom. They told me not to easily get affected by other people’s saying. People may lose memory or say something mean. As long as I stand firmly in my inner peace, I can let the people’s bad intentions go.
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