I had a meeting with the insurance agent this afternoon. I was thinking of my late mom. I remember she started having a life insurance around 50, which is my current age. When we go beyond 50, it might be natural for us to start thinking about our old years and after our departure.
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At night I watched the online lecture presented by Japan Homeopathy School. The teacher’s advice resonated with me perfectly. She gave me the exact answer toward my experience in the afternoon. I thought this was a natural way for my family spirits to convey messages to me. When the pandemic started, the teacher was strongly against of wearing a facial mask and having a chusha. However, as she observed many of her students and clients, she gradually came to a conclusion that she needs to find some peaceful ways with others, instead of constantly getting mad at the people who had different opinions from her. Previously she let all her workers and customers not to wear a facial mask in her restaurant and offices, but she now instructed them to be flexible depending on the situation. She installed acrylic plates in her restaurant and offices. She has realized the importance when dealing with opponent people with respect and love. Instead of always arguing with the opponent people, sometimes it helps to give consideration to their feeling by just yielding in.
While I was chatting with one of my friends, she annoyed me by saying her belief about chucha. I didn’t talk back to her. I didn’t tell her anything, but when I came back home, some uncomfortable feeling stayed with me. I know I did the right thing by not talking back to her, because it prevents any possible agree arguments. What I wanted to tell her was like this. I respect her opinion and belief and that is why I won’t oppose them. I want her to do the same. I want her to respect my opinion and belief and stop forcing me to change my belief to hers. However, now I fully realize that I cannot change anybody but myself. I cannot change the way she acts, but I can change my reaction to her. I can change myself to accept her belief and opinion with keeping my belief and opinion. I can change myself not to get offended by her or other people.
While I am writing this, I feel appreciated to her, because she has given me the important reminder. As 般若心経 says, everything is actually neutral. It is my mind whether I get offended or not by outer factors. As long as I stay in my inner peace; 中庸, I will be fine no matter what.
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