My cousin informed me that my brother will have the 49-day ceremony for my late dad today. I appreciate my cousin for letting me know, but at the same time, I will be okay if I didn’t know about this. My brother didn’t let me know for reasons, and I want to honor my brother’s will for doing this all by himself. To me personally, I don’t need any special ceremonies for my death because I want my family being survivors to be free from all kinds of responsivities and guilt feelings about my death. I will be happy in spirit if my family members can keep remembering me in a good way and keep the memory of me in their minds. That is all I want them to do. I want my family members to enjoy their life as much as possible even after my departure. Maybe I am one of the minorities to feel that way. I know the majority of people still want their survivors to keep doing the special ceremonies after their departure. I sincerely hope that eventually more people will feel like me that death is just a transition and we don’t need to perform all kinds of ceremonies for the departure. Just keep loving the departed souls does matter.
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