In the morning, we went to the zoo and the grocery store. Then we enjoyed a cook-out some beef steak and vegetables.
After we ate lunch, my mom-in-law started talking about her experience on my late dad-in-law’s departure day. On the evening, they ate out for dinner. After they came back home, my dad-in-law said he wanted to have a sponge bath. They had an argument about the sponge bath. My mom-in-law wanted to give a sponge bath to him while he was sitting on the recliner chair, but my dad-in-law wanted to do so at the sink in the bathroom. They ended up argument and my mom-in-law left him in the room alone. After a while when my mom-in-law went to check on him, my dad-in-law was on the floor. She didn’t know exactly what to do in order for cardiopulmonary resuscitation, so she called 2 sisters. One sister was at the bar drinking some alcohol in town and could not go to their home right away. The other sister was at home. Even though they live close to each other, it took them for a long time to arrive at their house. the sister didn’t come. The nephew and the sister’s boyfriend came to the house, but they were reluctant to enter the house. Both of them didn’t know what to do, so they called an ambulance. By the time when all the rescue people arrived, my dad-in-law was already gone. They could not bring him back. My mom-in-law blamed herself and got in the deep depression state for 2 years or so. She blamed herself so much to the extent where she even thought about committing suicide. But then, she thought of her three granddaughters that she didn’t want the girls to go through such a tough situation.
I never heard these stories from my mom-in-law before. Even my husband didn’t know in details. While she was talking about it, she was shedding tears. Then she said she finally felt released from the guilty feeling.
Once she felt good, she suggested us to go back to our house. We were originally planning to stay until Friday so that we could take my mom-in-law to the July 4th cerebration. However, Navajo nation decided to cancel the firework show due to the dry air. My mom-in-law felt sorry for us that we would not have any cerebration in her area. We agreed to go back home one day earlier than our original plan. At least my mom-in-law seemed to be happy after my counseling session that she could release her hidden blame and guilty feeling. I guess we were back to the Navajoland to heal my mom-in-law.
In the evening at 7:30 p.m., we had a meeting with the handyman at our new shed. He sent us the update saying that he would complete the project by this weekend, but he hasn’t come for these past 2 weeks. When he arrived at our shed, he said his sister just passed away last week and they would have her funeral service on this Friday. We were sorry for his loss. We told him to take time as long as he needs. He said he would try to complete our project by the end of this month.
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