I have some issues with my biological family. After I communicated with my parents on the phone the other day, I made my mind not to visit them in Japan anymore. It was very tough decision for me. I felt lonely and sad, and I cried a lot.

After the conversation with my mom, my mother’s soul visited me in my dream. She said she understood everything and it was okay. I was supposed to cut off any kinds of nostalgic emotions toward Japan, so that I could focus on my current life in America. We all agreed like this. Everything was going just like we previously planned, before I was born. My mom’s soul gently hugged me and told me she was always proud of me.

I have one brother whom I haven’t seen nor communicated for more than 5 years. This morning his soul visited me in my dream. He told me he missed his little sister and he was always happy for me and proud of me whenever he heard about me living happily with my family in America. His soul also told me it was okay and everything was going as we previously planned.

I wanted to share my personal experiences that show the discrepancies between the situations in Physical world and in Spirit World.

We all experience disagreements or arguments with our family members, friends, and coworkers. Most likely, we tend to think the specific person is the evil one and you are a victim. However, it might be already planned previously. The specific persons might volunteer acting like a villain to us to help us to learn something important. These people might be an angel figure for us because they kindly volunteer to help our spiritual growth or awareness.

One example: If we are lacking in communication skills, somebody might come into our life to help us to realize our poor communication skills. We might get irritated to the person, because we know deep inside of ourselves that the person reflects our lacking skills like a mirror. Therefore, in order for us to resolve the relationship with them, we might have to brush up our communion skills. Once we brush up our communication skills, the person might become our best friend for the rest of our lives.

Another example: If we have a tendency to stay being yes-person to everybody, some people might show up to challenge us about our being yes-person situation. Unless we really stand up for ourselves and change our attitudes, the similar situations keep on coming to our lives via different people, in different situations. And, the challenges most likely tend to get bigger and tougher to solve.

We tend to forget some agreements before we were born, but we can at least ask ourselves if the event gives us an opportunity to grow up. If our answer is Yes, it might be based on our agreements before we were born.

Many people have asked me how I can remember my dreams. I don’t remember my dream every night, and I do sometimes have non-sensed dreams, just like everybody. But, whenever I need to ask my family souls’ advice or opinions, I simply ask them, before I go to bed, to talk to me in my dream and help me to bring back the advice or messages .

Then whenever I receive something important in my dream, my family souls usually wake me up right away, in the middle of my dream. When I wake up, the memory still vividly stays with me, so I hurry up and jot down into a note pad which I always put next to my pillow.

Another ways is that if I don’t wake up at the middle of my sleep, my family souls put the information into my palm and they close my palm. Then, they tell me to open my palm when I wake up. So, when I wake up, I check my palm. If my palm is closed, I slowly and carefully open my palm. Then, like vapors coming up from my palm, the memory of their message pop up so that I can quickly jot down into a note pad.

I believe this is a special gift provided to me for some reasons. I believe I am using my gift to share their knowledge with many people. I also believe everybody equally has their unique and special gifts. Some already recognize their special gifts and use them in their daily life, while others might be still searching their special gifts. You might want to ask your close people, like family or friends. Sometimes, we cannot see clearly because we have our special gifts in natural ways; they are so natural for us that we might miss recognizing them. In such situations, the third person’s perspective might be helpful.  

We come here the planet Earth to let our souls grow. Many people know we have guide spirits around us and they help us all our life. I prefer to call them as spiritual family souls, instead of guide spirits, because the individual spirits have different personalities, just like a family; one spirit has a father figure, the others have a mother figure, a grandfather figure, a grandmother figure, a sister figure, a brother figure, and a baby figure. Each spirit has different energy and personality.

When we humans are dealing with certain tough situations, each family soul helps us with their unique way. It is so painful for a mother figure spirit to keep on watching the person suffering from the pain that the mother figure spirit wants to simply give the easiest solution. On the other hand, a father figure spirit wants to believe in the person’s ability so that the spirit does not give an easy solution, rather, it lets us to think about the best solution by ourselves. A grandfather figure spirit might give the person a hint for a solution, while a grandmother figure spirit simply gives the person a feeling of comfort.

My family souls take turns to be born in the planet Earth. I took my turn being as a guide spirit for one of my other family souls who were reincarnated in the planet Earth. I was not allowed to give the person the easiest solution because that would prevent the person’s spiritual growth. It was hard for me to quietly keep on watching the person on the planet Earth. Spirits can see wider visions than humans do, so that they know if the person choose a certain direction, the person will get hurt. Even in such situations, guide spirits have to let the person go through the tough route, so that the person can learn through the experience.

Many people think of their spiritual family souls or guide spirits as super existences so that they can use their magic wands to get rid of all our tough situations. However, they don’t have rights to deprive our precious opportunities to grow our spirituality. All they can do is to keep on trusting us, motivating us, and once in a while, giving off a subtle light showing the direction toward solution. That is the way on how our spiritual family souls love us.

When I offer horoscope chart reading sessions to people, some people keep on complaining about their tough situations. I try to give them a small hint or an idea on how to come out from the tough situation, but they focus on certain things, blaming a certain person, such as spouses, parents, children, coworkers, employers, neighbors…. If they are not ready to listen, any advice cannot go through to their souls.

It is all up to us whether we want to get stuck at the same places or to learn lessons from the event and move on to a new leveled lesson.

If we keep on blaming somebody else and don’t face to the event itself, our vision gets too narrow to see a wider vision.

If we want to graduate from the current situation, we have to figure it out what the event’s real purpose, what we can learn from the event. In such situations, we have to take a deep breath, back up from the event, try to see a wider vision, and to take appropriate actions.

I watched the movie Troy. One scenery stood out where Brad Pitt said this quote.

“The gods envy us. They envy us because we’re mortal, because any moment may be our last. Everything is more beautiful because we’re doomed. You will never be lovelier than you are now. We will never be here again.”  

http://www.goodreads.com/quotes/732434-the-gods-envy-us-they-envy-us-because-we-re-mortal

This is very true. My family souls always tell me that they envy me having a human body so that I can experience all the unusual and unexpected events in first hand. As I stated in my earlier post, when we were in Sprit World, we were surrounded by the same leveled souls in spirituality, so that we won’t be able to experience unusual and unexpected events, like we do in the planet Earth.

We all have spiritual family souls watching over us. They don’t have physical bodies like we do. They are not in the place where diversity in spiritual aged souls interfere one another. They can learn something new all the time through us by watching over us. We can experience things in first hand; we can experience variety of emotions. From the perspectives from spirits, we appear shining whenever we experience variety of emotions very strongly.

The most important thing for us is how we react to the certain experience. It is all up to us, Free Will, whether we blame somebody else and keep on wishing on the person’s bad luck, or face to the event and find out what we can do to change the situation better and take appropriate actions. Once we graduate certain types of events that happened to strengthen our souls, our family souls praise us for our graduation for the specific lesson. Then, we can move on to a new lesson to grow our souls.

At last, if I am allowed to change the quote slightly, I would change the last sentence as “The exact same situation will never come back to us, because we all are evolving all the time.” Let’s enjoy every moment, and do our best to grow our souls before our time has come to go back to our spiritual homeland.

As we go through a higher title or a job position, we tend to be happy about it and cling on to it. This is one of the illusions that are unique in living on the planet Earth. From the perspectives from Sprits, we don’t have such titles or job positions, anything like that, to compete one another. In Spirit World, we are satisfied with who we truly are, and we don’t need to compete with other souls. We respect other souls who have different gifts and personalities. We respect one another. There is no win or lose. We simply don’t have any negative emotions such as jealous or prejudice.

I know one Japanese man who stays being humble in all his life. He doesn’t like to be called “Master” even though he is actually in a position of Master due to his diligent contribution. He is reluctant to be called even “Sensei” (meaning Teacher). He wants to be called simply as his name xxx-san.

There is a Japanese old saying “実るほど頭の下がる稲穂かな”. Somebody translated this as “The boughs that bear most hang lowest” or “the more noble, the more humble”. Ideally, as we get older, as we get higher tile or job position, we want to be even more humble than our younger days, and show the right direction to the younger generation. We want to become such ideal goals for younger souls.

When we see people, we tend to see them through physical age. And that is pretty normal. However, we have to always remember that physical age and spiritual age are not the same.

There are two examples that I can share with.

The first example is about kids at the school bus stop. At the school bus stop, there are 10-12 different aged kids, starting from a kindergartener to a 7th grader. I naturally guess or wish that a 7th grader, older kid, will let smaller kids ride the bus first; but in reality, it is opposite. Some 7th graders always want to get in the bus first. They even push off smaller kids waiting right in front of the bus door, and get in the bus first. On the other hand, a kindergartener says “it is okay and they can go first”, gently smiling.

The second example is about the class where different aged group people joined. When I arrived at the class, my regular seat was taken, so I sat down another empty seat. Later on, an old woman, who is in her 70s, came late and claimed that was her seat. Her voice was loud, kind of yelling. Technically, any seats were not pre-assigned so that anybody could take any seat that was vacant.

You see from these two examples that we tend to expect higher morals and thoughtful actions from physically older people. But in reality, it doesn’t work like that, because we all have different maturity in spiritual age. These people have older physical bodies and older in appearance; however, their true self which is inside of the body, their souls are still pretty immature.

When we were in our spiritual hometown, our family souls are almost similar in spiritual age. Therefore, as long as we stay in our spiritual hometown, we won’t be able to experience something unusual or unexpected. On the other hand, in the planet Earth, there are huge gap in spiritual age so that we constantly experience something unusual or unexpected. All in all, we kind of have to enjoy this diversity, because only through diversity, we can experience and we can learn from the experiences.    

I went to a Wellness Clinic where they offer variety of alternative healing methods for free of charge to public. As far as I remember, there were Hand reading, Acupuncture, Reflexology, Sound healing, Reiki healing, Shamanic healing, and Intuitive reading.  I chose to receive an intuitive reading session on that day.

When the intuitive reader approached to me, I instantly liked her very much. She had big and warm energy surrounded by her. Her energy embraced me, even before she actually shook hands with me. She channeled her guide angels and my guide spirits, and conveyed the messages to me. It was very powerful messages and confirmations. I shed lots of tears as a cleansing process, and I felt much lighter after her reading session.

To me, alternative healing methods work well to remind who I truly am.

Right after we were born, we all remembered who we were. We all remembered that everybody had unique and special gifts. However, as we experience material life styles getting influences from parents, siblings, and teachers, we gradually lose our identifications on who we truly are. Some of us gradually lose confidence in ourselves.

In my theory, western medicine treats humans just like machines. Whenever some parts do not work well, they focus on the malfunction parts themselves and try to fix the cause with using certain external chemicals (medicines), or replace the broken parts. On the other hand, alternative healing methods work on our core part; who we truly are. Our core parts cannot be broken no matter what. When we work on reminding on who we are and regaining our confidence in ourselves, we are able to fix any issues.

I went to the second class of Self Defense class. The first class was done mostly sitting in a chair, studying about philosophy in order to avoid being a victim. On the second class, students went out to the studio, paring with a partner. Unfortunately the number of the students was odd number, and I was the unlucky person who did not have a partner.

During other students were practicing with their partners, I stood alone in the middle of the studio, watching other students. I didn’t like the situation. I hated not being able to practice. From time to time, the instructor came up to me and let me practice with him for several seconds. He said he needed to walk around to check how the students were doing. Later on, the instructor told me to move each pair on each exercise, so that they didn’t need to deal with practicing with three people for long. I thought, “what about me? I still have to deal with a group of three all the time. It is not fair”. When I went to each pair to join on each exercise, following the instructor’s instruction, everybody was obviously reluctant on having me in their pair. When I approached to them, some students simply ignored my existence and kept on practicing by themselves, while others acknowledged me but still took their time practicing by themselves. I felt sad;  at the same time, mad. Why do I have to deal with this, even though I paid for the class? I came to the class to learn the self-defense technique, not to be treated as black sheep.

On that night, I accidentally yelled at my husband and daughter. There were not particular reasons why I got mad at them. The true reason for my anger obviously came from the class. I apologized to my family for taking my stress out on them. I needed to face with the true cause that made me upset, directly, by myself.

Several days later, I went to see the director of the class. She was thoughtful enough to offer me the refund the remainder of the class fee, and I got released from the cause of stress.

All in all, this Self Defense class taught me the importance of self-defense. In the first day, the instructor taught us to scream “Fire” instead of “Help” in the emergency. If we scream “Help”, the chances to receive help from strangers are scarce, because most people out there are reluctant to get involved in any kinds of trouble. Whenever we need somebody to help us, we need to take a proper action to get their attention to us.

Before I moved to America, one of my friends told me the difference of medical fee between Japan and America. In Japan, medical fee is not as expensive as that of America. She had lived in America for some years and experienced the expensive medical fee. From her experiences, she recommended me to study and learn self-healing methods as much as I could, so that I could possibly reduce the frequency on going to see a doctor in America.

This is how I learned Reiki healing and Homeopathic remedies. Before I learned these two healing methods, whenever I had some pain such as headache or toothache, I would casually take aspirin pills. Since I learned these two healing methods, I haven’t taken any aspirin pills at all. To me, it is a big difference and that helps my body to stay away from medicines (unnecessary chemicals for my body).

So far, I have only two healing methods, but I want to learn more and more. After I move to a new area, the first thing I will do is to go to a massage therapy school and learn lots of human anatomy, energy line, pressure points, even human psychology toward sickness. I want to become a home doctor for my family and friends so that they can at least receive some alternative healing methods whenever they need, before they go see a doctor, or with doctor’s treatments.